Inspiration for a Happy Relationship…From Poetry: “Fire” by Judy Brown

By Orly Katz, LCPC at Everyday Counseling and Coaching Services

I found this poem “Fire” by Judy Brown to be an excellent blue print for creating and maintaining happy togetherness. Happiness in our relationship is like the fire that we create. It will keep on and on as long as we wish to invest our energy, thoughts and understanding of its structure. Happiness will grow as long as we allow some space within the structure.

Happiness is a result of providing space, allowing the individual to grow within the relationship and finding the balance between growing together and growing individually. Happiness is built on a strong foundation. It is cultivated with care and sometimes with lightness of heart.


FIRE by Judy Brown

What makes a fire burn
is space between the logs,
a breathing space.
Too much of a good thing,
too many logs
packed in too tight
can douse the flames
almost as surely
as a pail of water would.
So building fires
requires attention
to the spaces in between,
as much as to the wood.
When we are able to build
open spaces
in the same way
we have learned
to pile on the logs,
then we can come to see how
it is fuel, and absence of the fuel
together, that make fire possible
We only need to lay a log
lightly from time to time.
A fire
simply because the space is there,
with openings
in which the flame
that knows just how it wants to burn
can find its way.

Judy Brown